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Dealing with Anger

We all get angry at some time. It is a normal reaction to events when we feel we are out of control. It is a state of emotion that has been part of human evolution, increasing adrenaline, nor-adrenaline, heart rate, blood pressure and hormone levels. Anger is often fuelled by a sense of injustice when we feel our views are not being respected or taken into consideration. A degree of anger is therefore part of our natural survival kit.

The problem comes when we perceive events out of all proportion in relation to the way others view them. Those who can benefit from anger management are the ones who become highly irritated and frustrated at events that others just brush aside. The root of these problems, like many disorders, can often be traced back to childhood when we feel we were bullied or unfairly treated by those close to us.

The effects of anger tend to be taken out on a partner, an innocent third party or an object - such as punching a wall or even self-harm. Suppression of anger just leads to more frustration and a bottling up of feelings that can explode in an even greater and more potentially dangerous bout of anger later. Releasing this pent-up emotion later or suppressing it can lead to feelings of frustration, and often a sense of regret and shame. Releasing anger can be a pleasurable experience, creating a sense of power, especially if the opposition to the anger is cowed. Of course persistent bouts of anger increase the hazard to all involved, and tackling the source of anger can make life itself safer for everyone.

However, the other extreme of not being able to express your anger can be just as damaging, and may need just as much attention. You may feel terrified of confrontation, finding it difficult to find your voice, leaving you silenced.